A guy friend and I were talking about dating a few days ago. I find it kinda frustrating trying to date guys my age, because I’m part of what has been referred to as “the hookup culture”. It’s how it sounds, a lot of people my age (men and women) are perfectly cool just getting together to have sex. This trend is not only acceptable among my peers but it’s widely accepted in culture. TV shows and movies make it seem like it’s no big deal to have sex with people who share no connection or friendship with each other.
I lament this devil-may-care attitude when it comes to sex because it makes it even harder for those who are actually interested in more than just a sexual relationship. Before I go any further, let me say that I honestly don’t care what other people are doing. If hookups are what you prefer, then great. I’m not some prude on a crusade to stop casual sex. I just think its hard being a single woman who tries to carry herself with respect when there’s a swirl of videos on World Star, YouTube, and countless other blogs with women shamelessly showing off everything their mother gave them.
Back to the discussion my friend and I were having. I was wondering why a guy would approach me and blatantly ask me to come to his house without even a feeble attempt at conversation. He said that with women putting so much of themselves on the internet and being down for hookups, it’s very easy for a guy to paint women with a broad stroke and assume we’re all like that. Me, getting mad at being lumped in with everyone else, claimed that there was no excuse for lack of respect and manners. He said I was right but that it is what it is.
A piece of advice he gave me was to do like restaurants do: No Shirt. No Shoes. No Service. There’s nothing I can do about the fact that some guys look at women as just another notch on their bedpost. But what I can control is how much of my time I will give them. If they don’t come with respect, decency, and manners then I’ll do just like McDonald’s and Applebee’s do: deny access.
Have any of you ladies encountered this issue?
J
Tags: dating, relationships, sexuality
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